Christmas is coming

Whether I want to admit it or not, Christmas is coming. I am really struggling with the whole notion of Christmas this year. D's little e-mail about Christmas dinner had a much bigger impact on me than I expected it to. I am constantly questioning myself about the meaning of family holiday dinners. Why does it matter so much to me? Why do i keep holding on to this last remnant of what used to be a family? It's not like it's the first time we've been down this road with him. I guess I just keep expecting things to change. I would like so desperately to be a part of the change. But I guess that is just not to be. So it's time to move on and figure out this whole Christmas thing. I am deeply grateful to M for taking on Christmas Eve dinner and stepping up to keep our little tradition alive no matter who happens to be sitting at the table. I see and hear Christmas all around me but I feel like an outside observer. I have no desire to put out the decorations. The thought of buying and dragging a tree into the house is totally beyond me. Why? I just feel tired. Maybe it's my job. Maybe it's my age Maybe it's being single and not caring to celebrate by myself anymore. All I know is that I better get my act together. J is coming on the 21st which means everything, whatever that ends up being, will need to be done by the time she walks in the door. I made myself shop today and I should feel good about that. But all I can think about is what a tiny little miniscule thing that is and how much more is to do be done. OK. I am going to turn on the Christmas music and fix myself a cup of hot chocolate. Then I will head down to the cellar to get the decorations and I will splash some red and green around and make this house a home again.

Addendum
Several hours have passed. The hot chocolate and Christmas music were just what I needed to get in the mood. I scattered a few decorations around the living room and did some shopping on line. I was extremely productive and have only one gift left to buy and that is D and C's . Not an easy thing to do because that little voice in the back of my head is always popping off about this and that. Ah well. I'm in much better spirits and am now ready to welcome the season sans the tree.